Vermont Info TOC:

  1. Vermont Frequently asked questions:

  2. Swingers Etiquette Top 10

  3. Rules of the Weekend:

  4. Playroom Specific Rules:

  5. ROOKIES/NEW COUPLES

 

Vermont Frequently asked questions:

 

This weekend is sure to suit your every fantasy and leave you relaxed and satisfied for the stressful holidays that follow shortly after. Here are some answers to some of the more frequent questions we have received, if you cant find what you are looking for, feel free to contact us at info@NewEnglandFlingz.net. 

 

Q:        How much is the weekend?        

A:         Cost for the weekend is $510.00 per couple

 

Q:        What does the weekend include?

A:         Each package includes 2 nights hotel (November 5 & 6), Friday evening dinner buffet, Saturday evening banquet, Saturday & Sunday morning breakfast buffets, inclusion in all weekend activities and playrooms. This fee included taxes and dining room staff gratuities.

 

Q:        What is not included in the fee?

A:         Alcohol ordered at the hotel lounge (except designated product during designated open bar times) as well as lounge staff gratuities is not included, additionally the fee does not include Saturday afternoon lunch or additional charges by event sponsored vendors (i.e. adult toys, erotic photographer). Incidentals at the hotel (long distance calls, etc) are not included.

 

Q:        Do you have single night packages available?

A:         Not at this time, however single night packages may be made available within 1-2 weeks of the event based on room availability. Check back at that time.

 

Q:        Do we have to stay at the hotel?

A:         Yes. This is a package and only couples staying at the hotel will be admitted.

 

Q:        Will there be any "non-swingers" at the hotel?

A:         No. This is a complete hotel takeover and all guests will be registered guests with New England Flingz.

 

Q:        How many couples will be attending?

A:         We won't know for sure until a few weeks before the event; however the hotel has 60 rooms available to us. This event has sold out in the past, however.

 

Q:        How old are the couples?

A:         We can't answer that, obviously, however in the past ages have been anywhere from mid 20s to early 60s. This event is open to all couples in the lifestyle, however both members of the couple must be 21 years old or older on or before November 5, 2010 (New England Flingz and the hotel reserve the right to confirm ages of each attendee).

 

Q:        Are singles allowed?

A:         Sorry, no, this event is for couples only.

 

Q:        Can we meet the couples ahead of time?

A:         We have set up a private Yahoo group and will send each couple that books an invitation to join the group. This will give everyone a great opportunity to get to know each other before our weekend. Also, some couples that have met in the Yahoo group have set up informal Meet & Greets prior to the weekend.

 

Q:        Is this clothing optional?

A:         Clothing is required in the dining room and main lobby; you may be nude in the pool, hot tubs, and play rooms.

 

Q:        What is the name of the hotel?

A:         For the sake of privacy for all involved, we will provide the name of the hotel upon receipt of your reservation and non-refundable deposit.

 

Q:        What amenities does the hotel have?

A:         The hotel has every modern convenience, including wireless internet, a heated indoor pool, 3 hot tubs, a sauna, a gorgeous lobby with a large stone fireplace, a restaurant and a fully stocked cash bar.

 

Q:        Is there housekeeping at the hotel?

A:         Housekeeping is not available during our event weekend, however tables of fresh linens are provided daily.

 

Q:        Can we come up a night early or stay a day late?

A:         Additional days may be booked directly through the hotel, however the hotel is open to the public and there are NO LIFESTYLE EVENTS at those times.

 

Q:        Can we request a specific room?

A:         Room requests, including King Bed rooms as well as handicap rooms will be granted on a first come/first serve basis and are not guaranteed.

 

Q:        Is smoking allowed?

A:         Per Vermont state law, all areas of the hotel are smoke free, including guest rooms. Smoking is allowed outside the hotel only.

 

Q:        Are you ok with recreational drugs?

A:         No. Our event is perfectly legal, and the addition of illegal drugs changes that. Additionally, people using drugs may make poor decisions that they would otherwise not make which are not appropriate in this environment. We have a zero tolerance policy, and violators will be removed without refund.

 

Q:        Is alcohol allowed?

A:         Our hotel has a fully stocked cash bar, and both members of the couple must be 21 years old or older on or before November 5, 2010 (New England Flingz and the hotel reserve the right to confirm ages of each attendee). Per Vermont state liquor laws, alcohol not served by the hotel is not allowed in the restaurant or lounge area and will be strictly enforced.

 

Q:        Are cameras allowed?

A:         No. New England Flingz has a strict "no camera" policy in all public areas of the hotel. New England Flingz does, however, make a professional erotic photographer available to couples who wish to schedule a private session in a private area of the hotel (additional fee). 

 

Q:        Is Safe Sex required?

A:         We strongly recommend that all couples participate in safe sex, we do provide condoms and lube in every play area and of course you are more than welcome to bring whatever brands you like. Additionally, it is always safe to assume that any other couple you meet practices safe sex and wants you to do the same.

 

Q:        What is there to do in the Stowe area when we are not playing?

A:         There is tons of great shopping, museums, restaurants, day spas, a winery, the Ben & Jerry's Factory, and the Vermont Teddy Bear Factory.

 

Q:        Is there any pressure?

A:         No, not at all. This weekend is perfect for experienced lifestyles couples as well as those considering trying it out. It's a great opportunity to meet all kinds of couples in a pressure free, relaxed atmosphere.

 

Q:        We have never done this before but would like to try. Is this a good event for us?

A:         Yes, perfect! We are a no pressure, fun social event that many new couples have attended and found to be a perfect environment for their first time. Additionally, our popular ROOKIE TRAINING CAMP on Friday evening is a great session for new and inexperienced couples to learn the "rules" of swinging before getting started.

 

Q:        How do we book?

A:         You can book through this web site using a secure PayPal account.

 

Q:        How long has this been going on?

A:         This weekend is in its 10th year and has been run by a lifestyles group in New Jersey until 2006 when we took over the group due to health issues with the organizer who recently passed away. Our goal is to continue to host the premiere lifestyles event for loving couples across New England and the rest of the northeast.

 

Q:        Who are you?

A:         We are a loving couple from Manchester, New Hampshire who is experienced in the lifestyle. We have been hosting house parties and lifestyle trips for over six years now.

 

RULES AND ETIQUETTE

 

To all attendees and potential attendees: Please review the following prior to attending, regardless of your level of experience.

 

Swingers Etiquette Top 10

1. BE COURTEOUS - Courteously is how we all want to be treated - with kindness, thoughtfulness, understanding and sensitivity. In essence, courtesy is our treating people the way we ourselves want to be treated. Remember the rules.

2. BE FRIENDLY - Whether or not you are personally interested in swinging with someone, be polite. You never know, you may share many other interests or you may meet that person again, and they may introduce you to someone with whom you ARE compatible and do wish to share time.

3. CLEANLINESS - Nothing turns a person off faster and more effectively than an unclean body or un-fresh breath. Even if you shower and perfume yourself before you leave home, it is always a good idea to freshen up again when you arrive at your destination. It is amazing what time to drive somewhere, stop for a bite, or whatever, can do or rather UNDO.

4. RESPECT OTHERS' FEELINGS - Beware, not everyone is comfortable in all situations, Keep your eyes open for signs that your partner, as well as others, is relaxed and enjoying themselves. If someone is not comfortable, try helping them over the rough spots. Remember, you were a beginner once yourself. If it is obvious that things are not working out, remain polite and courteous; but alert the host. Keep in mind that not all people feel the same about things.

5. DON'T BE PUSHY - If you are interested in swinging with someone, let them know in an inviting way; if they are interested, they will respond positively. If they are not and say "No, thank you," do not ask WHY. No amount of sweet talk or coercion on your part will change their mind and will probably work against you. Everyone has the right to say "NO" at all times, to anyone, without explanation. Do not ever forget that. Also, do not join a scene without permission.

6. ONLY DO WHAT IS FUN FOR YOU - Do not allow yourself to become sexually involved with anybody that you are not interested in. There is no reason to involve yourself in a scene that you are not comfortable with. You are in the lifestyle to enjoy yourself, so only do what you want, when you want and with whom you want.

7. HOW AND WHY TO SAY NO - One of the basic etiquettes in swinging is the right of anyone to say "No". Experience has taught most people that everybody is not right for everybody else. Improper handling of a situation, however, can lead to a lot of hurt or very bad feelings. The swing world accepts the premise that everyone has the right to say "No" to anyone at anytime and it should be done with a simple "No, thank you". Never give an explanation, because that is what usually causes the problems and the pain.

8. ALCOHOL - Some of us drink socially. At times, a few drinks are nice to help you "relax". Over-indulging may hamper your physical abilities, as well as offend or turn other people off to you. If you have to over indulge in order to participate in swinging, you are involved in the wrong lifestyle.

9. PRACTICE SAFER SEX - It is up to us to protect ourselves as well as our partners. With the present concern over sexually transmitted diseases, the use of condoms should not offend anybody. Anyone not willing to take this precaution is acting selfishly and irresponsibly. You are not being accused of being unclean, but simply someone wishes to provide you both with protection.

10. ENJOY YOURSELF - Most important, have a good time, act out your fantasies, explore your own sexuality and enjoy everything this lifestyle has to offer with enthusiasm, laughter and a positive attitude.

 

Rules of the Weekend: 

We want everyone to have a great time.  Please respect and follow all rules.  Violation of these rules will be addressed by your hosts.  If a violation of our rules is felt

o be serious, you will be asked to leave without a refund.

1) NO MEANS NO! - This is the foundation of our lifestyle. Very basically, the right to say *Yes* is accompanied by the right to say *No* Further explanation is neither necessary nor required. Don't be afraid to be firm! Be polite, but be firm. Unfortunately, if you are not clear in your statement, you may be giving another person or couple the wrong impression. Face it, many people don't understand or take *hints* too well. Although you may know what you mean, there are some people who only understand *NO!*

2) DISCRETION: - This rule is very simple. "What you see here stays here when you leave here!" We don't talk out of school.

3) NO DRUGS! - Obviously, we cannot allow either the use of or possession of any controlled substances on premises. We will not debate this issue at all. Additionally, drinking in excess can cause you to make choices you would otherwise not make. Additionally, others probably wont find you attractive if you are slurring your words or falling down.

4) SMOKING - Please be considerate of non-smokers at the party. Please NO SMOKING in bedrooms, bathrooms or anywhere inside the establishment (Vermont state law). Smoking in designated outdoor areas ONLY.

5) DON'T MONOPOLIZE THE PARTY ROOMS - We need to keep the party rooms available for partying. If you are using them to socialize or sleep, then you are denying their use by other members. The facilities are here for every ones use, but they are not unlimited.

8) SAFE SEX - Please, always respect every ones safe sex requirements! Condoms and lubrication are available if you are not prepared. They will be placed in each party room as well as towels and flushable wipes. Please ask your hosts if your party room is running low on these items.

9) CLEAN ENVIRONMENT - If you use a condom, please make sure you throw the condom in the garbage after use. It is appreciated if you do not flush them as we are on septic. There will be little garbage containers and Kleenex in each bedroom and bathroom. Also, absolutely NO GLASS/BOTTLES in the pool/hot tub area. Plastic cups are provided for you to put your drink in. This will be strictly enforced!

10) NO CAMERAS! Photography will not be tolerated. We are a Private Venue. We are private People.

11) NUDITY: Clothing is optional only in the pool, hot tub, and party areas only.  Please be covered in the lounge, eating areas, the lobby, and when travelling throughout the hallways.

12) ALCOHOL: Only alcohol purchased from the hotel may be consumed in the lounge/restaurant area (Vermont State Law). We strongly recommend that guests do not drink to excess, as this can result in bad decisions and a ruined weekend.

13) RESPECT YOUR SURROUNDINGS AND HOTEL HOSTS:  Our group is a guest here at the hotel.  Your behaviour reflects on your hosts.  Please respect the property as well as the hotel staff.  We would like to be invited back in the future.

14) HAVE FUN!  Make friends, make memories, relax and enjoy.  Please let your hosts know if there are any issues which might interfere with your enjoyment of the weekend.  We are here to help.

 

Playroom Specific Rules:

 

Several private and semi-private playrooms are provided for the event, please note the following rules for their use.

 

1.    PRIVATE PLAY ROOMS: When in use, please shut the door if you do not wish people to enter. If you encounter a closed door, assume the couples inside do not wish to be disturbed. When finished in the play room, please clean up after yourselves and leave the door open when leaving. If you encounter a closed door and believe the room to be empty or find a playroom in need of cleaning or restocking, please contact your hosts.

2.    SEMI-PRIVATE PLAY ROOM: This larger play room is open to all who wish to utilize it, including observe however please refrain from distracting behaviour including: laughing, making comments at people playing, loud conversation. If you are there to observe, please do so quietly and respectfully. Couples wishing a more private environment should move to a private play room or their own rooms. When done in the play room, please clean up after yourselves. If you encounter a closed door and believe the room to be empty or find a playroom in need of cleaning or restocking, please contact your hosts.

3.    COUPLES ONLY: Unless SPECIFICALLY INVITED by couples playing, all playrooms are for COUPLES ONLY – remember, this is a couples weekend, and if your partner is in the lounge or has gone to bed, you should be with them (even if they have given you Permission to play alone). This will be STRICTLY ENFORCED.

4.    RESPECT ALL: Remember, do not invite yourself/join any group that is in the middle of play/massage. Only join groups if you are specifically invited. Individuals or couples who join groups uninvited is considered a serious situation and may be subject to removal from the event without refund.

5.    CLEANLINESS: Please assist us in keeping the rooms clean after use by properly disposing of used condoms, wrappers, beer bottles, cups, etc. Please inform your hosts if playrooms are in need of attention or restocking.

ROOKIES/NEW COUPLES

An Important Message to "Rookie" Couples: Some of the more common questions we get come from couples that are new to the lifestyle. They may have limited experience or may be considering trying it for the first time. The biggest concern is whether our events are appropriate for these couples.

Our answer is a simple YES!
 Whether you are considering joining us in Stowe in November, or any of our other events, you will find all of our events to be no pressure, fun filled events with great couples. 
Remember, our events are what you choose to make of them. We provide the atmosphere and the great people, its up to you and your partner to bring the right attitude. 

One thing about our events is that you will never feel pressure to do anything you or your partner does not feel comfortable with. We are not your typical house party where you show up, have a few appetizers, shuck your clothes and have sex with whoever happens to be in the room 

What you can expect is a sensual atmosphere where you can meet other like-minded couples with various levels of experience. If the situation feels right for you and you take it to the next level, great! If not, maybe next time, or maybe the time after that. The important thing is that you took a big step in your relationship as you slowly bring yourself into the lifestyle. At a minimum, with a Flingz event, you are assured of a great, relaxing time with your partner. Also, for those joining us in Stowe: Join us Friday Night in the conference room for our popular Rookie Training Camp, an informal chat with Mark & Kathi. During this time you can learn about the lifestyle from an experienced couple who have experienced all it has to offer, both good and bad. Participants will be free to ask any questions that they have, and this environment is a great opportunity to meet up with other "inexperienced" couples.

 

 

 
   

 

  
 
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